I don’t get it. I just don’t. No, please, don’t even try to explain it to me. Because it’s all nonsense and insincerity.
Sure, it’s great when people like your post or tell you how wonderful you are. Even virtual hugs are nice to see once in a while.
But it doesn’t mean anything. Not in the real world because you see, 99% of those people will never be in your life. I may tell you on your thread to “Hang in there!” or “I hope things get better” or even “This is great! You are brilliant!” and I will mean it.
But most likely, that’s as far as it goes. I go to the next post, comment here and there, and I’ll forget all about you.
Just as you do with me and I’m good with that. In fact, I prefer it.
But when I see an abundance of people craving attention, needing it more than they need air, admitting they need the validation so they can feel good about themselves, a part of me sneers, another part of me spits and the rest of me keeps scrolling.
The moment you think self-esteem comes from anything outside of you, you’re fucked. Totally and completely fucked and apparently, you’re too wrapped up in yourself to even see it.
Self-esteem is confidence in one’s worth, abilities and value. If you’re looking for it outside of yourself, you’re on the wrong path for people are fickle. Their opinions often change moment by moment and if you value their opinion of you higher than your own, well….you’re fucked.
There’s no magic pill to fix it anymore than there is a pill to get back a gift you gave someone 10 years ago.
You never lost your self-esteem. Ever.
You gave it away. Willingly and happily. You said “Here, you take it because you’re more important than me, better than me, more interesting than me, blah blah blah….”
So you go online to try to get it back?
You’re an idiot and you’re making a fool of yourself, so knock it off.
I used to teach classes on self-respect and self-esteem. It was a lot of work and a lot of fun, and guess what? It worked 95% of the time. Those students of mine, are walking around, kicking ass and making absolutely NO apologies for themselves. They’ll never give it away again and will crush anyone that dares to even suggest they do. They are happy with themselves and their lives and they have the tools to keep going, to keep their chin up, and to never, ever, invalidate themselves again.
And believe me, it had nothing to do with social media. Not one damn thing. We tapped into what was already there, buried deep down inside, and slowly brought it back up.
You had it as a kid. You were born with it. YOU buried it. YOU said it wasn’t valuable. YOU agreed with others. YOU did it.
You can also undo it but not until you take responsibility for giving it away.
And it had nothing to do with TV commercials or what you see and hear all around you or how many people jerked off to your picture or praised your amazing tits. Since when did you think you were your body? Pffft…..
You started craving that long after you sold yourself out.
It used to make me sad to see it. Now I just shrug, sigh, and carry on.
But there’s always a little voice in my head, saying “Talk to that person. Maybe you can help…” but , over and over again, social networks have shown me it’s all smoke and mirrors and if I’m asking a person to take the time and invest in themselves, they are too busy posting something else in order to be interesting.
I’ll give you a hint about being happy and fulfilled:
Be interested in life and stop being interesting.
Good luck with that.